this thing people call fate

I think I can finally conclude that there isn't such thing as fate, or destiny. It's whatever path you decide to take as opposed to whatever path you're directed towards by some unknown force. Let's face it. How many times have we gone through the whole "ooooh soulmate", "ooooh childhood friend, definitely soulmate", "ooooh, another time and another place and we would not have met" only to wake up to hard reality afterwards? It's only a fairy tale for the first bit (like in those movies), but what happens after the credits start to roll? You can meet your soulmate so many times, in so many people, depending on who you are, or where you are at that point in your life. So, it's not a matter of having that one soulmate, it's a matter of happening upon someone you're compatible with for that stretch of time, then seeing if what you have can last through the next period of transitioning. I think once we start realizing that, we can start letting go of the past and all these feelings of "lost love", "missed opportunities", and "he/she was the one", "he/she broke my heart". The reality is this - Yeah, he/she broke your heart. So what? While you are stuck mourning and lost in something you can't even begin to explain because whatever answers you want are trapped in the mind of someone you don't even speak to anymore, they're off enjoying their life - without you. So let's live realistically in the present then - be excited for who you're going to meet next and give them all of the attention and affection they deserve. Right here and now isn't a history of sadness and baggage, of things you've always known, just a future of uncertainty and possibility, waiting to happen if you would just be willing to give it a chance.