How long does it take to get over a relationship? I got different answers from different people. For some people it was a long and painful process of recovery, others didn't even have to try - the pain just healed itself somehow...
From my personal experience I have learned a very important lesson. Closure is a key. As soon as you get it, you will definitely make a huge step in your healing process. After a break up, people tend to look back and over think things. It's natural that you want the person you loved back, even if you were the one whose initiative was to end the relationship. You're still emotional, you are so unsure about the future, about the "freedom" that fell in your hands. What if it's a mistake? What if I overreacted? Oh my god, I should apologize and maybe we can work it out?... Getting a closure is like putting a full stop in a sentence... Like burning the bridge to the past. Yes, it's hard. But it's necessary if you want to move on. I kept postponing it for 5 months because I was afraid to get over him. I was supposed to tell him what was on my mind when he came over to end out relationship. But I was dumb, I said I was fine and I had nothing to tell him. The only thing I asked him was to "Take care of himself..." I was such an idiot.
I finally got a closure. I told him what I was upset and angry about. I finally yelled at him. Yes, it seems that nothing will change, we are still ex-boyfriend and ex-girlfriend. We can't repair what has been broken. But something did change. I feel much better, as if I got something very heavy off my chest. I am moving on.
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